There are many issues that creep into our lives that we did not ask for, that we fail to address, or do not know how to address, refuse to address, or do not address to the satisfaction of others.

The deceitfulness of sin

Eve and the Jews, the chosen people of God (who chose Barabbas over Jesus) presented but a glimpse of God’s big picture and the deceitfulness of sin. Consider the subsequent generations of Jews that did not choose Barabbas. False teaching works the same way.

Rich Mullins (1955-1997), the Christian singer from back in the days, was for me, the last great theologian, even if he wasn’t, and didn’t consider himself as one. He had a way of speaking truth that made me evaluate my faith. 

“Christianity is not about building an absolutely secure little niche in the world where you can live with your perfect little wife and your perfect little children in your beautiful little house where you have no gays or minority groups anywhere near you. Christianity is about learning to love like Jesus loved and Jesus loved the poor and Jesus loved the broken.” ― Rich Mullins

“Never forget what Jesus did for you. Never take lightly what it cost Him. And never assume that if it cost Him His very life, that it won’t also cost you yours.” ― “We were given the Scriptures to humble us into realizing that God is right, and the rest of us are just guessing.” ― Rich Mullins

Finding myself in unexpected waters

A former sister-in-law, long since gone home, once share with me a decision she was compelled to make. Thinking on her experience, later, it occurred to me that maybe that’s why fellow Christians leave ministries behind. Let’s be truthful, so few people in the church have a heart, much less time for volunteer ministry. Martha is very demanding. She even complained about Mary to Jesus. Pastors will indirectly call out congregants for this failure. They are thankful for the folks who give of their time, folks who sacrifice their time, but they are only a few folks and there is so much work to be done. “We really need more folks to step up.” Scripture says the harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few. I don’t use this example lightly, operating a church takes a lot of people as it has many needs.

Anyway, my sister-in-law felt constantly pulled by her church to volunteer for this and that. She confessed that she found it hard to say no. She was a young mom with three children who needed her attention. She was also homeschooling them. It was not easy for her to say no. Her first priority had to be the needs of her children.  She felt “this is the lot that the Lord has given me and I cannot do a good job if I am constantly putting others before my children.” She chose obedience to the lot she felt the Lord had given her. She did not stop serving the Lord. She admitted to me it was not the lot she would have chosen. Growing up she knew she wanted to be a professional. I was like, wow. That took a lot of discernment.

There are many circumstances I would not have chosen for myself or my children, but it was the lot I had been given. For my sister-in-law it was not about saying no to God, but learning to say no to Martha and not feeling guilty about choosing God’s will. Learning to accept the lot one has been given is not easy, especially as Americans. The apostle Paul learned to be content in all things.

Learning from the parent-child relationship

After my divorce in 1997, I had to learn how to navigate a very cold world. As a single mother, I found very little compassion and an abundance of judgment. Adversity was on every corner. It took me a while to realize I was unprepared to adequately provide for my children. So I went to college. That in itself was a challenge. But it lead me down a path that the Lord would later use to teach me. I chose to study child development. I learned many valuable lessons working in the field of early childhood and the many facets of the parent-child relationship. The Lord was gracious in revealing to me how the earthly relationships parallel the heavenly relationship.

Early childhood encompasses the array of development all children experience. A healthy emotional development is critical as children learn to express themselves. Abuse and neglect have been shown to alter a child’s brain architecture. The effects are long-lasting and make it difficult for children to make secure attachments with caregivers. It is heartbreaking that the people designed to nurture them can also inflict pain and suffering.

The effects of neglectful and abusive parenting is not always as obvious as one would believe. Too often, the children love their abuser. They love their mommy and daddy. The signs of neglect manifest differently than signs of physical abuse. Christian parents like to quote the scripture spare the rod and spoil the child as rational for spanking their children. That is what I was taught. So Christians, in general, more often than not, consider the lack of physical punishment bad parenting. So all the disobedient, and disrespectful children are a result of bad parenting. Parents who spare the rod raise children that spoil everything. Very few individuals will step in to help a child getting yelled at, or getting a whooping for crying in the grocery store. Have you ever witnessed a parent yelling at an infant? A child up to a year old is considered an infant. Their only form of communication is still crying. I believe most people have seen a toddler getting berated in public. Very few people even react to such a sight. It’s heartbreaking.

It is nobody’s business, right? Well, consider the neglectful and abusive parent/child relationship. Believers are the children of God. God is our Heavenly Father. I will not lay it out for you. When God’s children are disobedient He must discipline them. The church is tasked with feeding the sheep, with tending His sheep. When the church is neglectful, the signs too can manifest differently than when the church is abusive. Jim Jones (He was a preacher, ordained, influenced by Pentecostalism.) I would consider abusive. He lead 900+ people to death. The Templars were just as bad.

The church, Christians, evangelicals, the people of God have a history of neglecting God’s Law. Jesus left us with a new narrative. A narrative that saves. The gospel is God’s authority. The signs of a neglectful church are evident to those few with eyes to see. The Bible is clear on that subject. They have chosen the way of Balaam. Feed my sheep, said the Lord. Where are God’s sheep?

The Scriptures tell us that the Lord disciplines because He loves us. His discipline is not abstract. Everything the Lord of creation does is purposeful. Even for those who do not believe. Following the lead of Israel, Christian and evangelicals cried for a king to lead them, to protect them from secularists, to save Christianity, clearly they were to busy lusting after the things of the world that there was no time to give to the lost. That is a very cynical attitude to take, isn’t it? But those “secularists”, the unsaved, the unbelievers, the sinner, the degenerates, all those people, Jesus came to save. They had to be sacrificed for their king. Just like the Pharisees dragged the adulterous woman to where Jesus was, front and center, calling out her sin, so the evangelicals have done. The Pharisees did not expect Jesus to do what He did, so Christians and evangelicals did not expect what their king is doing, or maybe they did and like Judas have gone astray. Their king is not done claiming his rights. The Pharisees thought they were safe and in control, but we know how that ended.

In the 21st century, Israel repeated history by willingly and willfully rejecting God, the King of Kings, and Lord of lords, for a human king. The most popular and influential Christians and evangelicals today, big names, signed off on the king’s appointment. God chose Saul, but Israel would suffer the consequences for their sin. The elephant in the room was asked to come in…

v. 9 – Now listen to them; but warn them solemnly and let them know what the king who will reign over them will claim as his rights.”

v. 19-20 – But the people refused to listen to Samuel. “No!” they said. “We want a king over us. Then we will be like all the other nations, with a king to lead us and to go out before us and fight our battles.” 1 Samuel 8 – NIV

To everything there is a purpose…

More to come… I am beginning to see the end of this narrative. Come back to see where Part 5 goes.

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I’m Irma

Welcome to my little corner of the blog world. Here, I share my thoughts on Christianity, the things of God, and the ways He has shaped and guided my path through life. My journey with the Lord has been long and transformative, marked by moments of peace and joy and periods of uncertainty. I write, first and foremost, for myself—to process what the Lord so graciously reveals to me in Scripture. Sharing some of these truths has become a mission of sorts, via blogging. His word urges us to bear witness and encourage one another.

As I reflect on my own transformation, I can say that the church itself has transformed over the years and not necessarily for the good. I speak about my own experiences with the church. One lesson the Lord impressed upon me this year is that “truth is not always truth.” What do I mean by that? There have been times when I’ve shared a biblical insight, only to realize that other faithful believers interpret the same passage differently. In that instance, I find that the Lord reveals according to our understanding. When I share the need for a Damascus experience understandings diverged sharply. Believers that have been raised in the church do not feel that such an extreme experience is necessary for spiritual maturity. Our faith is truly shaped by our backgrounds. Spiritual journeys are not for everyone. This taught me that early socialization deeply colors our grasp of faith; what’s true for me may not resonate in the same way for someone else.

Similarly, lately I considered how “ignorance of Scripture was its own blessing,” I remembered my early walk with Christ. I had a blind faith. I knew little of doctrine or debate. I trusted the pastor. In those days, my faith and trust in the church and church leaders was simple—I accepted what was taught from the pulpit without questioning. I did not have the knowledge needed to question any teaching. There was a peace in not knowing all the controversies or complexities. As I grew and studied the scriptures, and did some additional research, as the Lord gave understanding, I found myself questioning everything I had been taught. I did not question my faith, or the existence of God. That ignorance, while limiting, protected me from confusion and doubt, allowing me to rest in childlike faith.

The church itself has seen many changes over the decades. Self-proclaimed prophets have introduced new doctrines, some bordering on heresy, while believers wrestle with their flesh and what it means to follow Christ in a society with so many freedoms. I remember a time, more than thirty years ago, when I trusted every word spoken in church. Now, I understand how easy it is to accept teachings that stray from biblical truth. The Scriptures warned us this would happen in the last days.

2 Timothy 4:2-4 (NKJV) “Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables.”

Current events—like the 2024 Election—have exposed deep flaws in American Christianity. Yet, through it all, Scripture assures me that God is sovereign. No wall built by human hands can withstand His judgment; no scheme crafted in darkness escapes His light. These lessons have become more real to me as I look back over my journals, filled with stories of God’s faithfulness during trials, tribulations and abundant grace. By sharing I hope those the Lord leads here will desire to seek God wholeheartedly, to find comfort knowing that He is always at work in our lives—often in ways we never considered.

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